Thanks for al the great comments.
Doom - I was refering to feeling like the second one.
Alaeha - that's jsut the point, they won't allow mw to be the shoulder or the ear.
Pered - Thanks
Deg - The whole point was people wouldn't let me be involved and you saying you will is already destroying my argument. Lol.
Scratches head at Zool. "Um... thanks." Lol.
Again, thank you all for your comments.